For so many of us, 2019 is the start of a season of fruitfulness and productivity, bringing to life the hopes and dreams that have been incubating for days, months, and even years in some cases. Yet so often, our delivery is delayed because we refuse to be real, transparent, or vulnerable.
When I was in labor with each of our sons, ready to give birth and experiencing some of the greatest pain and discomfort I’ve ever felt, I was keenly aware of the need to be honest about what I was experiencing and what I needed to get my babies here safely. If I wasn’t quick to let my husband know that my water broke or my contractions were coming much closer together, it would have delayed my access to the help I needed at the hospital. If I wasn’t honest about the pain I felt during the different tests and overall labor process, my doctors would have been unable to adequately manage that pain.
As it turned out, both of my sons needed to be delivered by c-section – despite my sincere desire, and for the first birth, my body’s long, labored efforts, to bring the baby into this world on its own. For me to have remained at home, silent, wanting to be the “perfect” laboring mother, would have been a decision that endangered my own life, and that of both of my children.
Unfortunately, we sometimes push ourselves to the point of loss of the promise, project, program or plan that would have changed the trajectory of our future because we are so stuck on “being perfect” rather than “productive” and improving the process along the way.
We refuse to ask for help, because somehow we’ve concluded that successful people “figure it out” on their own. We allow our pride, bolstered by our degrees, experience, accolades, to keep us from connecting with others, who may not be as credentialed as we are, but are divinely designated resources to help us move forward.
I’m here to encourage someone who has been silently struggling to move towards your goals – stop allowing fear, facades, pride, or perfectionism to keep you from the future God has ordained for you!
You don’t have to be perfect. Just get it done. And then make it better.
You don’t have to pretend. Be honest about where you are, what you have, and what you still need to get where you are going. And then make use of the resources you have around you. You might be surprised just how much support you have if you just say those words three little words: “I need help!”
You don’t have room for pride if you ever want to grow. Be humble enough to learn from anyone, at any level. Be a life-long learner. Have a growth mindset.
It’s time to deliver. You can do this!
~ Andrea ~
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